Thursday, April 26, 2012

Menarik Untuk Ibu-Ibu dan Bakal Ibu...

A man came home from work and found 3 children outside, still in their pajamas, playing in the mud, with empty food boxes and wrappers strewn around garden, The door of his wife's car was open, as was the front door to the house and no sign of the dog, walking in the door, he found even bigger mess. A lamp had been knocked over, the throw rug was against one wall, In the front room the TV was on loudly with the cartoon channel, the family room was strewn with toys and various items of clothing. 

In the kitchen, dishes filled the sink, breakfast food was spilled on the counter, the fridge door was open wide, dog food was spilled on the floor, a broken glass lay under the table, and a small pile of sand was spread by the back door. 

He quickly headed up the stairs, stepping over toys and more piles of clothes, looking for his wife. He was worried she might be ill, or that something serious had happened. He was met with a small trickle of water as it made its way out the bathroom door. 

As he peered inside he found wet towels, scummy soap and more toys strewn over the floor. Miles of toilet paper lay in a heap and toothpaste had been smeared over the mirror and walls. As he rushed to the bedroom, he found his wife still curled up in the bed in her pajamas, reading a novel... She looked up at him, smiled and asked how his day went. 

He looked at her bewildered and asked, 'What happened here today?' She again smiled and answered, 'You know every day when you come home from work and you ask me what in the world do I do all day?...

''Yes," was his incredulous reply..

She answered, 'Well, today I didn't do it.'

(From author of the book What Mothers Do - Especially When It Looks Like Nothing  by Naomi Stadlen)

Hehehehe..Thanks to Fariza for sharing this story.... Siapa kata surirumah tu takde kerja? Bila dia betul-betul 'tidak bekerja', baru semua orang noticed!!

Nak share cerita berikut...saya telah copy dari blog orang gak ni ...hopefully dia tak marah,huhu...


Clean or Messy Houses
When moms working out-of-the house leave their homes, they stay clean or messy, the way they were left.  The kitchen is not being used, the kids are not being fed in that house, because someone else is watching them; paid or unpaid.

When stay-at-home moms stay home – especially with small children – they are at home preparing a meal every 2-3 hours and messing up the kitchen.  The kids (if healthy) will mess up the house – constantly.  And since she’s home, mom decides she should take care of various household chores, tasks, and projects, creating more mess.

Schedule and Structure vs. Utter Chaos
Working moms’ days are more scheduled and structured – they simply cannot change their day, or drop everything to tend to someone else’s needs.  No one thinks working moms “don’t have anything better to do”, so they are not asked as often to drop everything to stop at the bank, or pick up the dry cleaning in the middle of their important scheduled work time – So less interruptions and falling behind with work.

Stay-at-home moms can go from cooking to cleaning to running errands to sitting in a pediatrician’s office for hours.  It’s very hard to keep a schedule when everyone, including the working mom thinks, her job is not that important.  It can be done later, let’s help everyone else.

Helping Hands
Husbands of working mothers are more likely to help as well, because of the same thing – the working mom is busy and needs help.  I hear it all the time; they help in the kitchen more often, bathe or tell kids bed time stories.  Hey, some even help with homework!

But why would stay-at-home moms need help, anyways?  They stay home and do nothing all day!  Sometimes they clean house, but how hard is that, right?  Even some grandparents and other friends and family tend to think along these lines.  Although stay-at-home moms have the privilege to stay with their kids and raise them themselves (and it is a privilege), that doesn’t mean its endless bliss.

Grown-Up Time
When away at work, working moms get to socialize with co-workers, be it a good thing or bad.  They get to interact with other adults – people who think on their level.  When they get home, they start fresh, anew with their lovely kids and change pace – mom’s happy to see them because they’ve been apart all day.  Then, at the end of a week or two, they get a check; be it large or small – it’s a check, even if they pay bills with all of it, it’s their own money.

Stay-at-home moms deal with children all day, many of whom never seem to tire of fighting, yelling, arguing, and throwing fits.  Kids want attention when mom is trying to do her chores or work on something important.  Stay-at-home moms hardly get to watch the shows they want to, since baby is watching Sprout, or the kids have cartoons after school, or their husband wants to rule the remote when he gets home from work.

Achievements vs. Laundry
Working moms get to partake in projects and assignments that, while challenging and even irritating, actually accomplish something in the end.  This can be anything from contributing to a presentation or landing a great client for the company – the fact is, she gets to see some kind of progress.

Stay-at-home moms have jobs that are redundant and never ending, so they don’t get to feel self-actualized until the babies are older – IF they did a good job.  There’s always the guilty feeling of, no matter what you do ALL day long, “Did I really spend enough time with the kids?” just like any working mom.

No matter how many years they work, or how much over-time they put in, stay-at-home moms do not get any physical checks – not even a measly little one.  Every bit of money spent, the stay-at-home mom knows, came from her husband.  Although not right, this type mom will never feel the money is 100% hers.
A lot of working mothers tease, thinking they have it worse, but at least they have a schedule, a place to go and some self-actualization.  

In the end, being a mom is a challenge, no matter how you approach it.  Stay-at-home moms should got a little more credit and respect for the work they do; it is, in no way at all, the “easy way out” of working – in fact, it’s probably the most work you’ll ever do, and definitely among the most underappreciated.

Moms have to be chefs, managers, event coordinators, mediators, counselors, decorators, accountants, and even other miscellaneous tasks, like music teachers and seamstresses.  There is virtually no way to train for being a mother, yet society tends to look down on these women as “not doing anything with their lives” – not doing anything?  How about shaping the mind and heart of a human being so that they can be a powerful, contributing factor in society?

Moms do hard, hard work, whether they go into an office every day or stay at home.  It’s important that everyone – including mothers themselves – recognize how hard a mom works and appreciates all the big (and little) things that moms do every day .

 Wanna be a mom???

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